First of all, thanks so so so very much for all the comments on my last blog. I really needed to get all those things out and you ladies all were such a support and encouragement to me! Each of you. But specifically....Steph, you have been my dearest friend most of my life! I hate that you have to feel this pain right now. I hope i can help you to laugh and make your days a little sunnier as you have mine. Becky, you are just the sweetest. You say i have been a tremendous encouragement to you, but you have no idea what you have been to me all this time! You make me laugh and smile on days when i want to do nothing at all. We have had some really amazing chats that have been intense, fun, silly, and just a highlight to my days. Besides....how many other people do i know that get married to their best friend while their fiance is deployed! LOL (that's sounds awful to those of you who do not know that story, but i promise, it's not how it sounds) Patti, i have told you a million times and i will tell you forever that you just mean the world to me. Although i know (from experience) that deployment is not an easy thing at all....you survived it while raising and homeschooling 3 wonderful children. You inspire me to be a better person. I can never thank you enough. I did not intend for this blog to only be thank you's to all my friends so let me wrap up with this....all the ladies who are so sweet and thoughtful on the Christian Military Wives and the Army Wives Chat boards.....you help me in many ways. I thank you all for caring about me and all the other women out there in our situation! Now on to my blog......I was talking to Steph again. Yeah we talk a lot. We were discussing how hard it is in the times leading up to deployment and then saying goodbye and the weeks after. It's hard on us, it's hard on the kids. It's just hard. So i was wondering....which do you think is worse....knowing your husband is leaving months in advance or him coming in one day and just announcing he has to go in less than 24 hours? There are disadvantages to both absolutely. Knowing so far in advance you have time to dwell on it. You work yourself into a frenzy over it. You have freak out time. You cry a lot and you worry and worry for months on end. Finding out on short notice you don't have time to think about it....you get one night with him and he's gone. Sometimes i am not sure if that is a disadvantage or not. Knowing he could leave ANY day i'd think you would be more inclined to live each day as close to great as you can. You'd want to not go to bed mad and say I Love You any chance you got. But then would you also get complacent in your life if he goes long periods without leaving? Like you'd forget that tomorrow could be his day. At least if you have months to think it over and prepare you can do some special things together and get in some good quality time. I just don't know. Seems like there is really no good way to do it....either way you are saying goodbye. And that hurts no matter what, no matter how long you've been preparing for it. It leaves a hole in your sole. It's a pain that no one else will ever know. (no i am not intentionally rhyming) And i'm afraid it doesn't stop til he is home. Forever. Even when he gets some leave time you still have it because you know he's leaving again. It's just so weird. One things is certain....once you are a military wife...you just can't take some things lightheartedly any longer. You hubby going to work is not quite the welcomed relief it once was in civilian life!
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First of all...((((HUGE hug)))). Your post made me cry, but this time it was the good kind cry. :)
And second, I would hands down choose the 24 hour notice! The pre-deployment stuff stressed both of us (mostly me) out so much that it was just like added time to the deployment! Mind you, most of our pre-deployment time was spent on opposite sides of the country, but that's my answer!
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