Here we go again.....

Why is it that every time in turn on my tv i have to hear the crazy things people are doing in their relationships? By now we should have all heard about former NY Governor Spitzer's affair with the call girl a couple years ago. He resigned as Governor and apparently he and his wife are working it out. But now he says that because the affair was with a call girl and not just anyone there was no emotional connection so it shouldn't have been such a big deal. Well did he ask his wife if it was a big deal? He gave away the one part of their relationship that was ONLY meant for the 2 of them to someone else AND he paid her to take it! Not only that but he went to the same person repeatedly. So how is there no emotional connection? If there were no connection they wouldn't have had conversation and he wouldn't have gone to her so often. He would have "shopped" around. Then I'm watching tv and i hear that there is a celebrity saying she and her husband have an open marriage. Either of them can have sex with another person outside their marriage and as long as they confess to their spouse, its ok. From what i hear, the interview in which this was said will air on Sunday night on the Barbara Walter's Oscar Special. Just so you know, i'm not making it up. I know....it's easy to believe it's made up because seriously how can anyone possibly believe that! I just have to ask.....where have our values gone? I know there are people out there who are having affairs every day. Living in a military community, I know it's a prevalent part of life. I am a wife whose husband had an affair. He used lame excuses and lines like "but i used protection". Like that makes it better! The good thing is that we were able to work through this and are still together and i totally trust him. Not everyone can do that. No way would i still be in this relationship if the affairs continued. Just so you know....they were over by the time i found out. He was completely remorseful. I know i wasn't the wife i was supposed to be during those times too. I know we were both at fault and we both learned from all we went through. It's not an easy thing to overcome. It's not as easy as just saying "well you got that out of your system, lets move on". It takes a lot of faith, prayer, forgiveness, and work. But i've also learned that marriage in general takes a lot of faith, prayer, forgiveness, and work. Even without infidelity in the picture. What part of 'marriage is a convenant that lasts forever' do people not understand? Now i realize there are people who are reading this who have been through infidelity and divorce and specifically divorce as a result of infidelity. But that still doesn't change my opinion on marriage and infidelity. and i'm sure my friends can understand that. I also realize that not everyone who goes through this will work it out with their spouse. South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford knows all too well that sometimes people don't work it out. His wife, Jenny, recently left him because of his affairs. She tried to ignore it. But over time it wasn't possible. maybe because he disappeared for several days when he was supposed to be on a business trip and after reappearing disclosed to everyone at a press conference that he was spending a few days with his mistress. I'm sure it was embarassing for Jenny. I can see why she chose to walk. I commend her for standing by him for so many years before this all came to light. And i commend Mrs. Spitzer for standing by her husband. I know she has faced many rude comments from others for trying to be a good wife. I say good for you! If you are both willing to work on the marriage, i wish you all the best. I am a firm believer in God's law. Once we are married it is til death. I know many people see this as unrealistic. After all, my own parents are divorced. There were even years that we encouraged Mom to leave Dad. But for my own life, i don't see this as unrealistic. Who knows what the years will hold.....but i'm hanging on to this. I wish more people in the public eye felt the same way. I really hate seeing things like this on the news and hearing these celebrity comments. Don't they know that young people look up to them? Don't they know they are affecting lives? Don't they know that people will hear that it's ok to sleep around as long as you are honest with your spouse and say "HEY why not"? People of this world would much rather hear what celebrities have to say than hear what God has to say. It's easier to listen to the world. It's easier to go with the flow of the crowd. But in the end, totally not worth it! In the end, so much better to follow the law of God and live right.